A therapy book in a convenient format that will free you from three problems: - harsh self-criticism; - emotional abuse; - inability to say "no." This book is for women who believe they will be loved only if they are convenient for others. That only good, obedient girls deserve care and respect and only such will be considered in family and at work. Psychotherapist Beverly Engel offers an author’s program, proven by 35 years of experience and based on the development rules of the four “Us”: confidence, skills, conviction, and remarkable courage. With this book you will: - get rid of the desire to please everyone; - stop placing others’ feelings and needs above your own; - learn to rely on your own self; - reveal your potential, begin to support and protect yourself; - replace the critical voice in your head with another — a supportive inner voice. "A good, thorough approach to a insidious but very common type of relationship where words and moods are weapons, not fists, yet they cause equally extensive damage. Most importantly, Ms. Engel doesn’t just describe — she gives us a way out." — Susan Forward, psychologist, author of bestsellers "Emotional Blackmail" and "Toxic Parents"